Are you angry at something or somebody right now? Yeah probably, right? Isn’t it why you are reading the ways to manage it? Don’t worry. You have taken your first step, which means you are kind of in a control of your emotions. Getting angry is a normal yet healthy emotion for anybody in general. But what you should be concerned about is reflecting it in a positive way.
Because it could lead to damage your mental and physical health as well as your relationships with others. Some people are prone to rage more often than others. Uncontrolled anger can end up with anger management issues or mental disorder. It’s important to control your emotions and calm yourself down for your own sake as well as for the sake of those around you.
How does it affect you? Well try and remember the reason you got angry right now. Yeah? Well watch how it slowly makes you feel bad about yourself as the time heals you. See, the choices we make when angry can often come back to haunt us, but the cycle can be hard to break.
Anger has power, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with that power, from letting it control you, being a prone to anger could lead to negative influence upon you while if you control that anger and reflect it on something else, you could even climb high up on your career ladder.
Once you realise that you are angry, you have made it half way. Then what you should look in to is managing the effects of it. What you say and how you show your anger. Most importantly are you ready to accept to yourself that you are angry. And how much aware are you about it?
Take timeouts, yes! You are not a kid anymore but yet timeouts are important. Give yourself short breaks during times of stressful days. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what’s ahead without getting irritated or angry.
Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
Don’t express anything until you collect your thoughts and start thinking clearly. Because you might end up in regretting about what you said. Make sure you express it all clearly and directly without trying to control or hurt anybody.
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings cover your heart over your positive feelings, you might find yourself discovering your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It’s unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times. But still it’s a matter of who being the bigger person.
You should always avoid criticizing or placing blame, which might only increase tension within you and the surrounding. Use “I” statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, “I’m upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes,” instead of, “You never do any housework.”
It will deliver the anger in a more respectable way and you won’t be harming anybody either stressing yourself out.